Mom and Dad

Dad and Mom, and Jesus, too!

They must be as one; mentally, physically and spiritually.

If Fathers and Mothers are at variance, one working against the other to counteract each other's influence, the family will be in a demoralized condition, and neither the father nor the mother will receive the respect and confidence that are essential to a well-governed family. The mother will leave the impression upon the minds of the children that the father is too severe or is needlessly particular. Children are quick to discern anything that will cast a reflection upon the rules and regulations of a household, especially those regulations that restrict their actions. Would that parents would work in harmony, guiding their children in the fear of God, and remembering that they are his agents. The family is a divine institution, and parents should be wise, judicious teachers of their little ones. Children are to be patiently instructed, line upon line, and precept upon precept, here a little and there a little. They should be trained, educated, and disciplined until they become obedient to their parents, giving respect to their authority. In this way respect for divine authority will be implanted in their hearts, and the family training will be like a preparatory training for the family in heaven. The training of childhood and youth should be of such a character that children will be prepared to take up their religious duties, and thus become fitted to enter into the courts above.

Advent Review and Sabbath Herald Family Government Is to Be Maintained 03-13-94) pr. 02.

There is no way to have Love without having the use of an Authority, a chosen Judge whether it be from Heaven or earth. Notice: It began with Liberity; Let it be done! Amen!

What can God (Authority) do with the disobedient? They may be disobedient because of misunderstanding, which can be satisfied by asking "Why?" or it may be caused by a difference of opinion. A difference of opinion is not a put down. Rather, it suggests a desire for clarity. Other reasons for a disobedience is a put down. If one party has already decided to let the other's preference stand, then there is neither argument or strife. If the wife refuses to obey the husband, what recourse does he have to substantiate his position as head. or of authority?
You cannot pit your husband against God! (or vise versa!): ie. "The Lord wants me to go do missionary work. You are not going to stand in the way of the Lord, are you?" He then is not the head of the house. The Lord is, and if He has spoken to you, where is the husband's authority?
"Honey, the Lord told me to leave you and the children and go do missionary work. You are not going to stop the Lord are you?"
If the Lord tells you to pay tithe and your husband says NO! How do you pit your husband against God and do it anyway? This is the reason why you should marry a person of your Church (Adventist?) . Even a bad Adventist will acknowledge God's Authority if given encouragement. We have to be careful lest we teach our children that authority is violent or violence. And that the only way to express a different opinion is by acts of rebellion.
Think about it!

Life can be hard for mom and worse for Dad.

His life is hard because he carries his wife, child, AND himself.

E. G. White
The Signs of the Times
Home Training. 07-22-89

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When children are permitted to take their own way in opposition to the will of their parents, they lose respect for father and mother, and learn to despise even the authority of God. They are indulged in manifesting passion in the home, and when they are brought into the church, they exhibit the same defects of character there, as they exhibit in the home. If they are ever converted, they will have to learn at the foot of the cross lessons which they might have learned at their mother's knee. They are marked by the defects of the father and mother. The parents did not go to Christ for the grace of patience and forbearance. The mother did not feel the importance of being Christ-like, of manifesting love and gentleness. -- Sis.E G White.

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